A Leadership Lesson from Toilet Paper
A Leadership Lesson from Toilet Paper
A Leadership Lesson from Toilet Paper
I’m sure you’re asking, how on earth can I get a leadership lesson from toilet paper? Well, we’ve all been there. Whether it’s because someone is a guest in your house or it’s your significant other, someone has replaced the toilet paper in your bathroom, and they put it on in the wrong direction.
Are you an over or an under? I mean do you place the toilet paper going over the roll or under the roll? Clearly if you’re an under, you are just plain wrong! Over is the obvious best choice because you can spin the roll to find the end. If you’re an under you have to really search for it.
The Curse of Unspoken Expectations
So how do you learn to lead more effectively from a roll of toilet paper? We all have unspoken expectations. In this case, it’s how the toilet paper should go, but in life, it can be just about anything. I have learned that most people don’t fail to meet your expectations because they can’t, not because they don’t want to, or not because they don’t care, but because they don’t know what your expectations are.
Meetings, projects, relationships all revolve around our expectations of each other. When people fail to meet yours, your first questions should be: Did I clearly communicate what my expectations were?
I’ll give you an example. My husband decided to clean our grill, and while he put it back together, he didn’t put the grease pan back in. While I was grilling up hamburgers, my little dog (my white dog) sat under the grease pan and was just licking up all of the grease. It was a sight to behold. I yelled into the house, “I can’t believe you didn’t replace the grease pan!” He yelled back, “I can’t believe you started to grill without checking first!”
What had just happened? While this is a trivial example, the same kind of thing happens in every household, in every office, and in every relationship. We get frustrated with people for not doing what we had expected them to do, when in reality, they can’t read our mind and may not have even known what our expectation really was.
Take time to think about your expectations, at work and at home, and then communicate them. It could be as simple as clearly explaining that you expect someone to meet a deadline or not engage you in office gossip. Bottom line, if you want people to meet your expectations, they have to know what those expectations are.
Oh, and if you’re an under, you should totally re-think your toilet paper strategy!
Anne Grady is a Speaker, Author, and #TruthBomb Dropper.
Anne shares practical strategies that can be applied both personally and professionally to improve relationships, navigate change, and triumph over adversity. And she’ll make you laugh while she does it. Anne is a two time TEDx speaker, and her work has been featured in numerous media outlets, including Harvard Business Review, Entrepreneur, Forbes, Fast Company and Inc. magazines, CNN, ESPN, and FOX Business. She is the best selling author of 52 Strategies for Life, Love & Work and Strong Enough: Choosing Courage, Resilience and Triumph.
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So true! And it’s so easy to think people know what your expectations are and not even consider that you need to communicate them.
This is a good reminder.
Oh, and of course OVER is the way! 🙂
I find myself guilty of this more often than I care to admit 🙂 Great to hear from you, Tracy! I hope all is well.
Thanks again, Anne! You always give great direction in a way that people are open to hearing. Have a blessed day!
Thanks Esther!
I’m an “over” gal myself, but I’ve been told by my friends who own cats that “under” is best, that way when the cat decides to swat at the roll while you’re away it won’t unravel 😉
Ha! Erin, I’ve never thought of that. Great point!
I so needed to hear this because I was just having a conversation last night with my mother about something I felt she should have done already, but has not for very good reasons. I’d been very angry about it and now that we communicated what we wanted and needed from one another to make this thing happen I think we…I am in a better place and can stop being so…well, daughterlike. Of course, I am so guilty of thinking people will know what I want because I feel that it is the logical way to do it, but everyone doesn’t think like me or even read my thoughts. Thank you for making me see that I’m not the only one AND that I have something to work on. Looks like communication is typically the key. The toilet paper roll has been discussed at length in my house, so there is NO question that it MUST be OVER. 😀
Hi Nikwai,
Very funny, I recently had a similar experience with my mother 🙂 Thanks for your comment. And over is clearly the right way 😉