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We all know one. A person who just isn’t very nice or one that is perpetually difficult. This person can be a colleague, someone that works at your doctor’s office, or even a family member. (Truth bomb: If you don’t know this person, it could be you 😉).  Here’s the thing, most people don’t wake up and think, “I want to be difficult and unkind today”. We all want to be loved and to have a sense of belonging. It is a basic human need. No one aims to be disliked or excluded.  When people are rude, difficult, overbearing, or just plain mean, try to remember the following:  Hurt people hurt people. It’s not an excuse, but it is an explanation and one that allows us to see people through a lens of compassion instead of judgment. You can still be frustrated, you can create distance between yourself and this person, or can choose to not have them in your life.  We behave like the person we think we are. It is impossible to behave in a way that is inconsistent with the way we see ourselves. If someone has self-hatred or isn’t happy, they will behave that way toward others, often unintentionally. We have blindspots when it comes to our behavior, and often our intent gets lost in the process.  Conserve your mental and emotional energy. Each day, we have a certain amount of cognitive, emotional, and physical energy. Every decision, task, thought, and behavior withdraws energy. Once it’s gone, it’s gone for the day. Be deliberate about who or what receives that energy.  Focus on getting it right. When someone hurts or wrongs us, it is tempting to want to return the favor. Unfortunately, that does nothing to fix the situation and only frustrates you. What is your goal, and is what you’re doing getting you closer to reaching it?  Rather than react, ask yourself, “What does getting it right look like”?  When you have a difficult person in your life, remember to focus on what you control. And while it’s not always easy, give people the benefit of the doubt and assume positive intent. The truth is that we are all doing the best we can with the resources we have available. If someone could behave better in that moment, they would.  ----------------  Subscribe to the Anne Grady Group for more resilience-building tools and strategies! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCU8s....  ----------------  Sign up for Anne's weekly Resilience Reset email list! 
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Hurt people hurt people

We all know one. A person who just isn’t very nice or one that is perpetually difficult. This person can be a colleague, someone that works at your doctor’s office, or even a family member. (Truth bomb: If you don’t know this person, it could be you 😉).

Here’s the thing, most people don’t wake up and think, “I want to be difficult and unkind today”. We all want to be loved and to have a sense of belonging. It is a basic human need. No one aims to be disliked or excluded.

When people are rude, difficult, overbearing, or just plain mean, try to remember the following:

Hurt people hurt people. It’s not an excuse, but it is an explanation and one that allows us to see people through a lens of compassion instead of judgment. You can still be frustrated, you can create distance between yourself and this person, or can choose to not have them in your life.

We behave like the person we think we are. It is impossible to behave in a way that is inconsistent with the way we see ourselves. If someone has self-hatred or isn’t happy, they will behave that way toward others, often unintentionally. We have blindspots when it comes to our behavior, and often our intent gets lost in the process.

Conserve your mental and emotional energy. Each day, we have a certain amount of cognitive, emotional, and physical energy. Every decision, task, thought, and behavior withdraws energy. Once it’s gone, it’s gone for the day. Be deliberate about who or what receives that energy.

Focus on getting it right. When someone hurts or wrongs us, it is tempting to want to return the favor. Unfortunately, that does nothing to fix the situation and only frustrates you. What is your goal, and is what you’re doing getting you closer to reaching it? Rather than react, ask yourself, “What does getting it right look like”?

When you have a difficult person in your life, remember to focus on what you control. And while it’s not always easy, give people the benefit of the doubt and assume positive intent. The truth is that we are all doing the best we can with the resources we have available. If someone could behave better in that moment, they would.

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Hurt people hurt people

July 24, 2023 2:47 pm

When I was younger, I loved video games, specifically, Super Mario Brothers. Little Mario traveled his way through all sorts of obstacles and challenges, bumping into mushrooms, dodging flaming balls, and jumping on turtles, all in an attempt to rescue the princess.  I remember the sense of accomplishment when Mario achieved the next milestone, but that dopamine hit didn’t last long. As soon as I made it to the next level, the game got more difficult. The threats were greater, the challenges harder, and the next level seemed impossible. I had a couple of choices: I could keep playing the levels I’d already passed. After all, I knew the tricks and shortcuts, and every time I went through those levels, they got a little easier. Or I could try the next level where I was most certainly going to fail.  Like a video game, life is a series of challenges, obstacles, lessons, and growth. It can feel like the second you recover from one challenge, you are confronted with another. You put in the work, you learn, you grow, you overcome, yet there always seems to be another challenge ahead.
Just like a video game, life is a series of opportunities to level up.  Think of your life as a series of levels. In level 1, childhood, you learn the basics of life: How to walk, talk, eat. Quicker than you realize, you advance from one level to the next, learning to work with others, problem solve, live on your own. All the skills you learn in level 1 build in level 2. You’ll still need to know how to walk, talk, and eat in level 2, but it won’t solve all your problems. That is something we constantly forget. While the skills we’ve learned are helpful, what worked to win in level 1 and 2, won’t always work in level 3 and 4.  The same is true in any time or place of change. When your team is changing at work, you’re starting a new level. New circumstances, new skills, new challenges, new teammates. The way you’ve always done things isn’t always going to work.  Leveling up often happens without you even realizing. Once you find yourself outside of your comfort zone, feeling stuck, scared, or lost, you’ve probably leveled up. The real question is, how do you find comfort and success in this new level of your life?  Whether it is learning to walk, getting through high school (you couldn’t pay me enough to do that again), starting a new job, or building relationships, we face obstacles, learn, make a plan, and move forward. We can either play it safe and do what we’ve always done, or we can choose to tackle the next level. The only way to achieve our potential (or save the princess) is to embrace the discomfort of the unknown.  Over the next several weeks, we will look at ways to level up. So, I have two questions for you, and you can reply directly to this email with your answers:  - If your life were a video game, what game would it be?
- Where in your life would you most like to level up and why?  Leave a comment with your answers.  ----------------  Subscribe to the Anne Grady Group for more resilience-building tools and strategies! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCU8s....  ----------------  Sign up for Anne's weekly Resilience Reset email list! 
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Are you ready to level up?

When I was younger, I loved video games, specifically, Super Mario Brothers. Little Mario traveled his way through all sorts of obstacles and challenges, bumping into mushrooms, dodging flaming balls, and jumping on turtles, all in an attempt to rescue the princess.

I remember the sense of accomplishment when Mario achieved the next milestone, but that dopamine hit didn’t last long. As soon as I made it to the next level, the game got more difficult. The threats were greater, the challenges harder, and the next level seemed impossible. I had a couple of choices: I could keep playing the levels I’d already passed. After all, I knew the tricks and shortcuts, and every time I went through those levels, they got a little easier. Or I could try the next level where I was most certainly going to fail.

Like a video game, life is a series of challenges, obstacles, lessons, and growth. It can feel like the second you recover from one challenge, you are confronted with another. You put in the work, you learn, you grow, you overcome, yet there always seems to be another challenge ahead.
Just like a video game, life is a series of opportunities to level up.

Think of your life as a series of levels. In level 1, childhood, you learn the basics of life: How to walk, talk, eat. Quicker than you realize, you advance from one level to the next, learning to work with others, problem solve, live on your own. All the skills you learn in level 1 build in level 2. You’ll still need to know how to walk, talk, and eat in level 2, but it won’t solve all your problems. That is something we constantly forget. While the skills we’ve learned are helpful, what worked to win in level 1 and 2, won’t always work in level 3 and 4.

The same is true in any time or place of change. When your team is changing at work, you’re starting a new level. New circumstances, new skills, new challenges, new teammates. The way you’ve always done things isn’t always going to work.

Leveling up often happens without you even realizing. Once you find yourself outside of your comfort zone, feeling stuck, scared, or lost, you’ve probably leveled up. The real question is, how do you find comfort and success in this new level of your life?

Whether it is learning to walk, getting through high school (you couldn’t pay me enough to do that again), starting a new job, or building relationships, we face obstacles, learn, make a plan, and move forward. We can either play it safe and do what we’ve always done, or we can choose to tackle the next level. The only way to achieve our potential (or save the princess) is to embrace the discomfort of the unknown.

Over the next several weeks, we will look at ways to level up. So, I have two questions for you, and you can reply directly to this email with your answers:

- If your life were a video game, what game would it be?
- Where in your life would you most like to level up and why?

Leave a comment with your answers.

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Are you ready to level up?

October 3, 2022 10:37 pm

Last week, I asked you to pay attention to areas in your life where you may be creating unnecessary stress. Checking your email after work and endless scrolling through social media are great examples of self-inflicted stress, and shifting those two habits alone will dramatically improve your mental health.  Unfortunately, much of our stress stems from events beyond our control. That stress begins to have negative consequences when we don’t have the mental, physical, and emotional resources to cope with the demands placed on us. There is a looming mental health crisis as a result.  Fortunately, we can increase our capacity to deal with stress and build a resilience buffer zone by developing these skills and mental muscles over time.  Part of this capacity building is to understand our brain and body’s stress response. When we understand how stress works, we can proactively and strategically manage it.  How It Works:  Your nervous system does essentially the same thing when you are scared or excited. If you’ve ever tried to change lanes in traffic, only to realize there was someone in your blind spot, you know the power of your nervous system. In a split second, your heart races, pulse quickens, mouth gets dry, and your body takes over. You’ve probably experienced a similar feeling while reading an email at some point in your career. While the email isn’t an immediate threat, your nervous system has the same response.  Your brain and body are amazing and are designed to protect you. Being able to tell the difference between danger and safety is necessary for survival. Your autonomic nervous system kicks into high gear, setting off a neuro and biochemical reaction, preparing you to deal with threats. Just as your nervous system cannot tell the difference between a real and perceived threat, it also can’t tell the difference between real and perceived safety. Every moment we spend in fear takes energy from our emotional reserves to cope. Every cue of safety replenishes these reserves to help us deal with challenges as they arise. This is great news because it means that you can signal safety for your brain and nervous system at any time.  Pay attention to your body and physical sensations. The next time you feel your nervous system trying to protect you, simply remind yourself that you are safe. I say to myself, “In this moment, I am safe.”  It’s so simple, it’s easy to dismiss, but this tool is a powerful resilience building skill. You can learn to control your nervous system.  Write this on a sticky note and place it on your computer, mirror, refrigerator, or anywhere you need a reminder: "In this moment, I am safe."
Use this simple mantra to reset your nervous system

Last week, I asked you to pay attention to areas in your life where you may be creating unnecessary stress. Checking your email after work and endless scrolling through social media are great examples of self-inflicted stress, and shifting those two habits alone will dramatically improve your mental health.

Unfortunately, much of our stress stems from events beyond our control. That stress begins to have negative consequences when we don’t have the mental, physical, and emotional resources to cope with the demands placed on us. There is a looming mental health crisis as a result.

Fortunately, we can increase our capacity to deal with stress and build a resilience buffer zone by developing these skills and mental muscles over time.

Part of this capacity building is to understand our brain and body’s stress response. When we understand how stress works, we can proactively and strategically manage it.

How It Works:

Your nervous system does essentially the same thing when you are scared or excited. If you’ve ever tried to change lanes in traffic, only to realize there was someone in your blind spot, you know the power of your nervous system. In a split second, your heart races, pulse quickens, mouth gets dry, and your body takes over. You’ve probably experienced a similar feeling while reading an email at some point in your career. While the email isn’t an immediate threat, your nervous system has the same response.

Your brain and body are amazing and are designed to protect you. Being able to tell the difference between danger and safety is necessary for survival. Your autonomic nervous system kicks into high gear, setting off a neuro and biochemical reaction, preparing you to deal with threats. Just as your nervous system cannot tell the difference between a real and perceived threat, it also can’t tell the difference between real and perceived safety. Every moment we spend in fear takes energy from our emotional reserves to cope. Every cue of safety replenishes these reserves to help us deal with challenges as they arise. This is great news because it means that you can signal safety for your brain and nervous system at any time.

Pay attention to your body and physical sensations. The next time you feel your nervous system trying to protect you, simply remind yourself that you are safe. I say to myself, “In this moment, I am safe.”

It’s so simple, it’s easy to dismiss, but this tool is a powerful resilience building skill. You can learn to control your nervous system.

Write this on a sticky note and place it on your computer, mirror, refrigerator, or anywhere you need a reminder: "In this moment, I am safe."

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Use this simple mantra to reset your nervous system

August 15, 2022 8:39 pm

Let's do an experiment. Fill in the blank. “If at first you don’t succeed, ____________”. You may be thinking, “try, try again”, but I was thinking, if at first you don’t succeed, failure may be your thing. 😉 
The way you filled in the blank may be an indicator of how inclusive you are. 
As adults, we don’t listen to understand, we listen to respond. Our brain likes predictable patterns, and it is always trying to fill in the blanks. When we try to fill in the blanks, we often fill them incorrectly, and it can cause people to not feel heard, valued, or included. 
Anytime you are communicating, you bring with your past experiences, both good and bad, with you. We are so inside of our own reality, that it’s easy to forget that our realities can be very different. 
Diversity and inclusion go beyond race or sexual orientation. My son Evan has autism, and this invisible difference often makes him feel excluded and different. Transplant someone from New Jersey into South Texas (I’m speaking from experience), and the words “similar” and “included” are not how I would describe my experience. Two people can look and sound identical and still be completely different. 
We have to stop filling in the blanks if we want to create real equality and inclusion. 
How do you make someone feel included? 
1. Really listen  We speak at approximately 125-150 words per minute, but we are able to listen to and comprehend 400-600 words per minute. That means that while other people are talking, we have lots of time to think about other things. Do you check your phone while you are in conversations? 86% of adults do, and it is the exact opposite of listening. 
The moment people see you are trying to understand them, they become less defensive. Rather than spending your time trying to convince someone that you are right, truly listen to understand where the other person is coming from. Listening is not an easy skill. It requires you to stop thinking and doing so that you are able to truly focus on what the other person is saying. You will be far more effective if your intent is to listen to understand, not to be understood. 
2. Be genuinely curious 
I’ve yet to meet someone who is offended when I ask a question about their background, culture, or experiences. The beauty of diversity is that we all bring our own gifts, knowledge, and experiences to the table. When we make assumptions or judgements about others without first trying to understand, we are not only filling the blanks in wrong, but we offend people in the process. It is okay to ask questions, paraphrase for understanding, and show genuine curiosity. It is how we learn. Two great ways to start are, “Can you help me understand….” Or “Can you help me understand where you’re coming from…”. 
3. Invite others to share their story  The best way to invite others to share their story is the offer to share your own. In the past, the idea of vulnerability was usually associated with weakness. In recent years, the word vulnerability has come to be used in a broader context — as in when you choose to share parts of yourself that you might be tempted to keep hidden. If you choose to show vulnerability with another person, that’s not a sign of weakness. It’s a demonstration of courage and builds connection and trust. This doesn’t mean you should air dirty laundry or show people that rash that keeps spreading, but it is okay to let your guard down. Not only is it okay, it helps you build resilience. When we are vulnerable, we make it safe for others to be the same. 
Community and connection are created when we take time to understand and celebrate our differences as well as our similarities. I don’t know anyone that wakes up and says, “I can’t wait to frustrate and disappoint the people I interact with today”. We wake up wanting to be successful, happy, and the best possible version of ourselves. Every human being has a fundamental need for connection and inclusion. That is what connects us.
Are you guilty of filling in the blanks?

Let's do an experiment. Fill in the blank. “If at first you don’t succeed, ____________”. You may be thinking, “try, try again”, but I was thinking, if at first you don’t succeed, failure may be your thing. 😉

The way you filled in the blank may be an indicator of how inclusive you are.

As adults, we don’t listen to understand, we listen to respond. Our brain likes predictable patterns, and it is always trying to fill in the blanks. When we try to fill in the blanks, we often fill them incorrectly, and it can cause people to not feel heard, valued, or included.

Anytime you are communicating, you bring with your past experiences, both good and bad, with you. We are so inside of our own reality, that it’s easy to forget that our realities can be very different.

Diversity and inclusion go beyond race or sexual orientation. My son Evan has autism, and this invisible difference often makes him feel excluded and different. Transplant someone from New Jersey into South Texas (I’m speaking from experience), and the words “similar” and “included” are not how I would describe my experience. Two people can look and sound identical and still be completely different.

We have to stop filling in the blanks if we want to create real equality and inclusion.

How do you make someone feel included?

1. Really listen

We speak at approximately 125-150 words per minute, but we are able to listen to and comprehend 400-600 words per minute. That means that while other people are talking, we have lots of time to think about other things. Do you check your phone while you are in conversations? 86% of adults do, and it is the exact opposite of listening.

The moment people see you are trying to understand them, they become less defensive. Rather than spending your time trying to convince someone that you are right, truly listen to understand where the other person is coming from. Listening is not an easy skill. It requires you to stop thinking and doing so that you are able to truly focus on what the other person is saying. You will be far more effective if your intent is to listen to understand, not to be understood.

2. Be genuinely curious

I’ve yet to meet someone who is offended when I ask a question about their background, culture, or experiences. The beauty of diversity is that we all bring our own gifts, knowledge, and experiences to the table. When we make assumptions or judgements about others without first trying to understand, we are not only filling the blanks in wrong, but we offend people in the process. It is okay to ask questions, paraphrase for understanding, and show genuine curiosity. It is how we learn. Two great ways to start are, “Can you help me understand….” Or “Can you help me understand where you’re coming from…”.

3. Invite others to share their story

The best way to invite others to share their story is the offer to share your own. In the past, the idea of vulnerability was usually associated with weakness. In recent years, the word vulnerability has come to be used in a broader context — as in when you choose to share parts of yourself that you might be tempted to keep hidden. If you choose to show vulnerability with another person, that’s not a sign of weakness. It’s a demonstration of courage and builds connection and trust. This doesn’t mean you should air dirty laundry or show people that rash that keeps spreading, but it is okay to let your guard down. Not only is it okay, it helps you build resilience. When we are vulnerable, we make it safe for others to be the same.

Community and connection are created when we take time to understand and celebrate our differences as well as our similarities. I don’t know anyone that wakes up and says, “I can’t wait to frustrate and disappoint the people I interact with today”. We wake up wanting to be successful, happy, and the best possible version of ourselves. Every human being has a fundamental need for connection and inclusion. That is what connects us.

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Are you guilty of filling in the blanks?

June 20, 2022 10:18 pm

When you are lying in bed at night replaying your day, are you thinking about the things that went right or the things that didn’t? 
Thanks to our negativity bias, the chances are pretty high that you naturally default to the negative. When those negative thoughts become obsessive, you are stuck in rumination. 
We’ve all been there – we make a mistake and replay it over, and over, and over. But is that useful – No. 
How do you get out of the rumination cycle? 
Rumination is the habit of obsessive thinking, it is a coping mechanism for stress, and it is a common psychological experience. When not managed properly, rumination can be dangerous to your mental health. 
Replaying an event to try to figure out what you might be able to do differently next time is helpful. When you are stuck in rumination, not only is it not productive, it reinforces the negative material and our negativity bias, and it does nothing to help solve the problem. 
Want to break the habit of rumination? 
Distraction (do something useful and productive). Do not try not to think about it. When you try not to think about something, you magnify it in your mind. Think about or do something else.Your brain will stay in a negative loop unless you shift your attention.  Shift your attention to something positive – If you messed up, think about times you got it right. Turn your attention to your strengths. Remind yourself that you are human .If you are still stuck in a negative cycle, remember this simple question: What’s right, right now?  Practice mindfulness. Notice when you get sucked into rumination. How does your body feel? Is it contracting or expanding? You can choose to disengage. Rumination is about the past. Bring yourself back to the present. Say to yourself, “Oh, I’m ruminating again”; this calms your brain and takes you out of a threat state, allowing you to think more clearly.. Anytime you go back to rumination, gently bring yourself back to this moment and take 3 deep breaths. This will interrupt the rumination cycle. 
Wherever we direct our attention becomes our reality because we find what we look for. The more you ruminate, the more likely it inclines your mind in that direction. 
Breaking the habit of rumination is a skill and one that will dramatically improve your mental health. You can rewire your brain by spending more time magnifying the positive in your life   and less time worrying about things you can’t control.  ----------------  Subscribe to the Anne Grady Group for more resilience-building tools and strategies! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCU8s......  ----------------  Sign up for Anne's weekly Resilience Reset email list! 
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This Habit is Sabotaging Your Mental Health

When you are lying in bed at night replaying your day, are you thinking about the things that went right or the things that didn’t?

Thanks to our negativity bias, the chances are pretty high that you naturally default to the negative. When those negative thoughts become obsessive, you are stuck in rumination.

We’ve all been there – we make a mistake and replay it over, and over, and over. But is that useful – No.

How do you get out of the rumination cycle?

Rumination is the habit of obsessive thinking, it is a coping mechanism for stress, and it is a common psychological experience. When not managed properly, rumination can be dangerous to your mental health.

Replaying an event to try to figure out what you might be able to do differently next time is helpful. When you are stuck in rumination, not only is it not productive, it reinforces the negative material and our negativity bias, and it does nothing to help solve the problem.

Want to break the habit of rumination?

Distraction (do something useful and productive). Do not try not to think about it. When you try not to think about something, you magnify it in your mind. Think about or do something else.Your brain will stay in a negative loop unless you shift your attention.

Shift your attention to something positive – If you messed up, think about times you got it right. Turn your attention to your strengths. Remind yourself that you are human .If you are still stuck in a negative cycle, remember this simple question: What’s right, right now?

Practice mindfulness. Notice when you get sucked into rumination. How does your body feel? Is it contracting or expanding? You can choose to disengage. Rumination is about the past. Bring yourself back to the present. Say to yourself, “Oh, I’m ruminating again”; this calms your brain and takes you out of a threat state, allowing you to think more clearly.. Anytime you go back to rumination, gently bring yourself back to this moment and take 3 deep breaths. This will interrupt the rumination cycle.

Wherever we direct our attention becomes our reality because we find what we look for. The more you ruminate, the more likely it inclines your mind in that direction.

Breaking the habit of rumination is a skill and one that will dramatically improve your mental health. You can rewire your brain by spending more time magnifying the positive in your life and less time worrying about things you can’t control.

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This Habit is Sabotaging Your Mental Health

May 16, 2022 1:13 pm

April is World Autism Month, or as The Autism Society is shifting to Autism Acceptance Month.  Raising a child with mental illness and Autism has been my resilience-building breeding ground. We began therapy when Evan was just 11-months old, and he has been in one form of therapy or another ever since. The lessons we have learned from countless therapists have been invaluable.  It’s hard to believe that Evan is turning 18 this month and graduating from high school in June! While I know our journey is in many ways just getting started, I am so hopeful for Evan’s future. I am also incredibly proud of the fact that he still asks me to share his story. He understands the shame and stigma attached to mental illness and Autism and wants to help change that. As a mom, this is my proudest accomplishment.  Just like you, I’ve learned how to build my resilience muscle out of necessity. On the days when I doubt my own strength, I look back on the lessons I’ve learned (and the ones I’m still learning):  1. Unconditional love
2. Acceptance
3. Empathy
4. Support
5. Self-care  Join me this month in helping build awareness and acceptance for people with Autism. And remember, when you see behaviors from others that may make you cringe, rather than pass judgment, offer a kind smile, a pat on the back, and provide reassurance. Remember, we are all doing the very best that we can.  ----------------  Subscribe to the Anne Grady Group for more resilience-building tools and strategies! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCU8s...​...  ----------------  Sign up for Anne's weekly Resilience Reset email list! 
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Lessons I’ve learned from raising a child with Autism

April is World Autism Month, or as The Autism Society is shifting to Autism Acceptance Month.

Raising a child with mental illness and Autism has been my resilience-building breeding ground. We began therapy when Evan was just 11-months old, and he has been in one form of therapy or another ever since. The lessons we have learned from countless therapists have been invaluable.

It’s hard to believe that Evan is turning 18 this month and graduating from high school in June! While I know our journey is in many ways just getting started, I am so hopeful for Evan’s future. I am also incredibly proud of the fact that he still asks me to share his story. He understands the shame and stigma attached to mental illness and Autism and wants to help change that. As a mom, this is my proudest accomplishment.

Just like you, I’ve learned how to build my resilience muscle out of necessity. On the days when I doubt my own strength, I look back on the lessons I’ve learned (and the ones I’m still learning):

1. Unconditional love
2. Acceptance
3. Empathy
4. Support
5. Self-care

Join me this month in helping build awareness and acceptance for people with Autism. And remember, when you see behaviors from others that may make you cringe, rather than pass judgment, offer a kind smile, a pat on the back, and provide reassurance. Remember, we are all doing the very best that we can.

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April 19, 2021 7:51 am

Who do you compare yourself to regularly?  Or more specifically, who have you compared yourself to in the last 24 hours?    So often we ask ourselves, "How does this person do “that”? What am I doing wrong?" While it is natural to compare yourself to others, it’s also what robs us of joy.   Without realizing it, when we compare ourselves to others, we activate our brain’s negativity bias, and it directly affects our mental state. Research shows that the kind of social comparison women are prone to is directly linked to low self-esteem.    Social media makes this comparison all too easy. We compare our life to the highlight reel of our friends, family, and colleagues. I can tell you that when you see my posts on social, you are most likely to see the great moments. I rarely post when I’ve had a horrible day because who wants to see that? Social media can be great if it helps you connect with others and build relationships, but not when it starts impacting your mood or causes you to constantly compare yourself with others. Doing that is just waging mental war with yourself. The next time you find yourself heading for a social media fix, ask yourself if it is serving you. Instead of endlessly scrolling, take time to comment on posts and engage with the people in your network.   I confess, I check my phone more often than I care to admit and get caught up scrolling through social media. Half the time, I don’t even realize I’m doing it. And that’s the problem – when we unconsciously allow anything to interrupt our mental processes and potentially shift our mood, we are giving away our mental real estate. This is especially the case when you are tired and don’t have the mental capacity to process it, put it in perspective, and choose how you want to interpret it.    The next time you head down the path of comparison, make a concerted effort to S.T.O.P. (Stop, Take three deep breaths, Observe your thoughts and emotions, and Proceed). Then spend your time and energy celebrating all of the amazing things you have accomplished and all the great things you will go on to accomplish. Don’t rob yourself of joy by comparing yourself to others.   ----------------  Subscribe to the Anne Grady Group for more resilience-building tools and strategies! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCU8s......  ----------------  Sign up for Anne's weekly Resilience Reset email list! 
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Comparison is the thief of joy

Who do you compare yourself to regularly?

Or more specifically, who have you compared yourself to in the last 24 hours?  

So often we ask ourselves, "How does this person do “that”? What am I doing wrong?" While it is natural to compare yourself to others, it’s also what robs us of joy. 

Without realizing it, when we compare ourselves to others, we activate our brain’s negativity bias, and it directly affects our mental state. Research shows that the kind of social comparison women are prone to is directly linked to low self-esteem.  

Social media makes this comparison all too easy. We compare our life to the highlight reel of our friends, family, and colleagues. I can tell you that when you see my posts on social, you are most likely to see the great moments. I rarely post when I’ve had a horrible day because who wants to see that? Social media can be great if it helps you connect with others and build relationships, but not when it starts impacting your mood or causes you to constantly compare yourself with others. Doing that is just waging mental war with yourself. The next time you find yourself heading for a social media fix, ask yourself if it is serving you. Instead of endlessly scrolling, take time to comment on posts and engage with the people in your network. 

I confess, I check my phone more often than I care to admit and get caught up scrolling through social media. Half the time, I don’t even realize I’m doing it. And that’s the problem – when we unconsciously allow anything to interrupt our mental processes and potentially shift our mood, we are giving away our mental real estate. This is especially the case when you are tired and don’t have the mental capacity to process it, put it in perspective, and choose how you want to interpret it.  

The next time you head down the path of comparison, make a concerted effort to S.T.O.P. (Stop, Take three deep breaths, Observe your thoughts and emotions, and Proceed). Then spend your time and energy celebrating all of the amazing things you have accomplished and all the great things you will go on to accomplish. Don’t rob yourself of joy by comparing yourself to others. 

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Tru dat!

Truth!

A trigger for many to be sure…I’m included in the “many.”

Saying that actually provokes you the the more … 😅😅

Kyra Hill 🤣🤣

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3 days ago

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6 days ago

Are you an authentic and likeable person? How do you know? When you are the topic of conversation, what do people say?

Not everyone has to like us, and that’s okay. That said, you will get more of what you want and less of what you don’t if you make an effort to be likeable. Here are 5️⃣ ways to be more authentic and likeable 👇👇
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Are you an authentic and likeable person? How do you know? When you are the topic of conversation, what do people say?  Not everyone has to like us, and that’s okay. That said, you will get more of what you want and less of what you don’t if you make an effort to be likeable. Here are 5️⃣ ways to be more authentic and likeable 👇👇Image attachmentImage attachment+3Image attachment
7 days ago

Thanks so much for having me Jan!
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7 days ago

When you are willing to be vulnerable, it makes other people more comfortable to do the same. This doesn’t mean you should air dirty laundry or show people that rash that keeps spreading, but it is okay to let your guard down. Not only is it okay, it helps you build resilience.

It is only through our willingness to embrace our imperfections that we can find courage, emotional resilience, self-compassion, and that ever-so-elusive peace of mind. #MindfulMonday
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When you are willing to be vulnerable, it makes other people more comfortable to do the same. This doesn’t mean you should air dirty laundry or show people that rash that keeps spreading, but it is okay to let your guard down. Not only is it okay, it helps you build resilience.  It is only through our willingness to embrace our imperfections that we can find courage, emotional resilience, self-compassion, and that ever-so-elusive peace of mind. #MindfulMonday
1 week ago

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It took years to get to this point, but I’m so grateful that I finally found a doctor/surgeon with the right knowledge, compassion, communication skills, and technical ability. The surgical team and my support system did not let me down. I’m upright, breathing, and ready for some changes!

Grateful that my brother and sister-in-law moved here. It’s been 45 years since he left for college and we haven’t lived in the same city since!

My Family! Birthday weekend for our son and my mother in law. They are both very special people.

I am really grateful for my neighbor who encouraged us to get drainage work done this summer. This photo is our yard after days of rain. It's fine. My basement is fine. I am thankful both for the workers and for my wonderful neighbors

I know all my children are safe and well at this moment. 🙂

Grateful for my 2 Charlie’s (daughter & son) both are healthy & doing well! Thankful & blessed!

Beautiful sunshine today!

I was going to say grateful that I finally get to go see P!nk in concert on Monday, but after reading everyone else's beautiful gratitude responses that feels a bit silly...lol. I'll have to think about it some more! 😁

Do-over, or do-again (!),. I'm grateful for all those friends who laugh and cry with me during the times when my children are not safe and well.

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We need a twinkie bar!

Looks like a wonderful team - I'd never expect a twinkie bar though!! No wonder they're all smiles with you at the helm.

Kelly Dafor - were you part of this group? Anne is a favorite!! ❤️

2 weeks ago

Friendly reminder…🤗

Let whatever you do this week be enough. There will still be tasks to complete, emails and texts to respond to, things to plan, and closets to unclutter.

Regardless of how much you do, you will feel like you should have done more. Don’t.

You have done enough.

Take a deep breath.
Relax your shoulders.
Soften your eyes.
Drop your tongue from the roof of your mouth.
Unclench your butt.
Relax your legs.
Wiggle your toes.

You got this.
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Friendly reminder…🤗  Let whatever you do this week be enough. There will still be tasks to complete, emails and texts to respond to, things to plan, and closets to unclutter.  Regardless of how much you do, you will feel like you should have done more. Don’t.  You have done enough.  Take a deep breath.
Relax your shoulders.
Soften your eyes.
Drop your tongue from the roof of your mouth.
Unclench your butt.
Relax your legs.
Wiggle your toes.  You got this.

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Thank you - just the reminder I needed! Our value as human beings isn’t centered on productivity alone - not even close. Unclenching in progress 😉 TGIF

You always know what I need to hear!

Perfect!!!

I received your email this morning and this is exactly what I needed to read.

Barbara Northern

For sure!

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