Hurt people hurt peopleWe all know one. A person who just isn’t very nice or one that is perpetually difficult. This person can be a colleague, someone that works at your doctor’s office, or even a family member. (Truth bomb: If you don’t know this person, it could be you 😉).
Here’s the thing, most people don’t wake up and think, “I want to be difficult and unkind today”. We all want to be loved and to have a sense of belonging. It is a basic human need. No one aims to be disliked or excluded.
When people are rude, difficult, overbearing, or just plain mean, try to remember the following:
Hurt people hurt people. It’s not an excuse, but it is an explanation and one that allows us to see people through a lens of compassion instead of judgment. You can still be frustrated, you can create distance between yourself and this person, or can choose to not have them in your life.
We behave like the person we think we are. It is impossible to behave in a way that is inconsistent with the way we see ourselves. If someone has self-hatred or isn’t happy, they will behave that way toward others, often unintentionally. We have blindspots when it comes to our behavior, and often our intent gets lost in the process.
Conserve your mental and emotional energy. Each day, we have a certain amount of cognitive, emotional, and physical energy. Every decision, task, thought, and behavior withdraws energy. Once it’s gone, it’s gone for the day. Be deliberate about who or what receives that energy.
Focus on getting it right. When someone hurts or wrongs us, it is tempting to want to return the favor. Unfortunately, that does nothing to fix the situation and only frustrates you. What is your goal, and is what you’re doing getting you closer to reaching it? Rather than react, ask yourself, “What does getting it right look like”?
When you have a difficult person in your life, remember to focus on what you control. And while it’s not always easy, give people the benefit of the doubt and assume positive intent. The truth is that we are all doing the best we can with the resources we have available. If someone could behave better in that moment, they would.
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Strong mental health is more than just the absence of mental illness; it is our mental well-being.
We live in a culture that isn’t comfortable talking about mental illness, nor do we see it as the health crisis that it is. While we are gaining traction, there is still a long road ahead to reduce the stigma that is attached to it.
I first got involved with NAMI Central Texas in 2007. My son Evan, now 21, was just four years old at the time and already on his first antipsychotic medication (I share our story in my TEDx Talk). I was a single mother, and I had no idea what to do or where to go, so I enrolled in a free class. The education, advocacy, and support I received changed the trajectory of my life and my purpose.
While more and more, people are speaking up about mental health, there is still a long road ahead to reduce the stigma that is attached to it. If you are suffering, know that you are not alone. I know it may feel like it, but you are surrounded by a community of people that love and support you. Don’t forget to put yourself on your priority list. While it may seem overwhelming, it’s about one decision at a time.
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What is your mental health fitness routine? 🧠
We tend to prioritize physical health (going to the gym, eating right, getting enough sleep), but mental health is just as – if not more – important.
May is #MentalHealthAwarenessMonth. Here are a few mental health habits to get you started:
1️⃣ Find joy and cultivate positive emotions. This puts your brain in a state of safety.
2️⃣ Let yourself experience every emotion you feel, even the crappy ones. Sometimes you have to sit in the suck.
3️⃣ Adjust your expectations. We are all doing the very best we can. Give yourself and others grace and the benefit of the doubt.
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I am having a very hard time not being negative this week. Thank you for the reminder to just move on!!
I love the garbage truck analogy! 🤣💕
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100% truth. Sharing.
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