A Toast to the Old You

A Toast to the Old You

A Toast to the Old You!

It’s a new year. Hell…it’s a new decade!

If you feel inspired to use the new year to help you reset or change habits, that’s great; but next time you resolve to work on the “new you”, remember that the “old you” has survived every hard thing, every tragic circumstance, and any despair you have ever felt. The old you is a fighter and that’s worth celebrating.

This year is your chance to be kind to yourself, practice gratitude, and live your life on purpose. Here are 5 habits you can proactively cultivate to embrace your past, learn from your mistakes, and bask in the triumph of just how tough you really are:

#1 – Stop listening to your negative inner-voice

That voice. You know, the one that’s always playing in the background of your mind. The one that says, “What is wrong with me?” or “Why did I say that?” or “How come I’m not moving ahead faster in my career?” It’s time to give it a name. Here’s mine. Why? Because if we don’t realize that that voice is not the truth then we just start operating as if it is. Here’s the thing: You are enough. It doesn’t matter what that voice says because you have a choice of whether you listen to it or not. If we’re not careful about deciding what voice we listen to, we end up defaulting to what has become our habit. Once you name that voice, you take some of that power away and you can start paying attention to whether it’s really the truth or whether it’s just that little voice playing dirty tricks on you.

#2 – Practice Mind Over Moment

Mind Over Moment is a science-based tool that utilizes the idea of mindfulness to help you become aware of your thoughts, feelings, habits, and behaviors in the moment, in order to steer yourself toward better responses and outcomes. It means being proactive and deliberate about the choices you make and the habits you practice, throughout your day, your week, your month, and your life. It is deliberately choosing what you want to achieve and creating a path to get there. Practicing mindfulness restores our connection to the present moment and reminds us that we are alive and in charge of the choices we make. Remember, this is called a “practice” for a reason and there is no perfect. All you can do is take one day at a time, giving yourself grace to do the best you can, and forgiving yourself when you fall short. All you can do is all you can do (that’s one of my favorite mantras).

#3 – Build resilience proactively

When we first go through something horrible, it seems we’ll never be able to bounce back. We are overwhelmed with grief, fear, or some other emotion. Slowly it dawns on us that there’s no going back. We must find the strength and the will to go forward. We may not be able to make big strides at first, but we begin taking small steps to work toward a solution and find ways to carry on. I used to think resilience was in your genetics, like skinny thighs. You either have it or you don’t. But what I’ve come to appreciate is that resilience is a set of habits and skills that can be cultivated, practiced, and honed, so that we cannot only make it through hard times, but become stronger as a result. You are full of strengths, accomplishments, and goodness. You are strong and capable of handling anything that is thrown your way. You have done it before and you will do it again.

#4 – Don’t waste failure

I don’t know any highly successful people who haven’t suffered setbacks throughout their life and career. All of them, including me, can name numerous failures. It’s a fact. Successful people fail more than unsuccessful people. Successful people take risks, they view failure as a learning tool, and they practice resilience. They have their initial feelings, process them, and then look at the problem and say, “What is this teaching me?” What can I learn from this?” They choose to use failure and adversity as learning opportunities.

Recently I was reading an interview with J.K. Rowling, author of the much-loved and critically acclaimed Harry Potter series, in Time Magazine and she said, “It is impossible to live without failing at something. Unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all. In which case, you fail by default.” She was rejected by 12 publishers and had no idea that her path to failure would one day prove so successful. Failure is scary, but recovering from failure (and doing it often) accelerates our ability to grow from our experiences.

#5 – Realize your courage

So many of us live out fantasies in our heads about good or bad things that might happen – most of which never do. It is said that 95 percent of what we’re afraid of never even happens, and the other 5 percent are things we can’t control. We spend an inordinate amount of energy focusing on the what ifs. Have you ever paid attention to how much time you spend worrying about things that might happen? There have been multiple studies (like these) about the emotional and physical health benefits of mindfulness; that is, living very consciously in what’s really happening right now. Remember, courage is not the absence of fear. Courage is being afraid and working through the discomfort. Courage means you allow challenge and adversity to be a catalyst to help you grow strong enough to face whatever life throws at you.

You’ve got everything it takes to make this year everything you want it to be and more. Celebrate everything that you’ve already accomplished and believe in the person that you are capable of becoming.

Make this the year you realize that you are courageous, you are resilient, and you are strong enough!


Happiness is a skill.

If you aren’t feeling very happy, satisfied, or content, look for blips of happiness. If you’re feeling angry, frustrated, or overwhelmed, look for blips of relief and realize that this too shall pass. No one is always happy or never happy. Happiness, just like sadness, and just about every other emotion happens in little blips. We get to choose which blips we focus on. #mindfulmonday #mindfulness #reslience #happiness #optimism #deliciousmoments #emotionalgrowth #personaldevelopment #mindset

What if you could break free from reactivity with a reset—a chance once and for all to define the life you want and create a path to get there, all while building resilience along the way? You can.

It’s time to delve into your automatic thought patterns, belief systems and daily habits to identify which ones are serving you. Resilience is built by deliberately cultivating productive beliefs, behaviors, and habits to intentionally break out of reactivity and live purposefully. If you have found yourself stuck in reactivity either before this pandemic or during it, remember to reset, practice #MindOverMoment, and purposefully build the life you deserve. It’s about what you do starting now that matters. #resilience #mindfulness #authorsofinstagram #booklaunchanniversary #breakout #liveonpurpose #habits #personalgrowth #reset #grow

Don’t neglect what brings you joy.

Sometimes it is easier said than done when you’re in the middle of it, but choosing optimism means you are deliberate about the way you interpret the adversity in your life.

Every situation, especially the difficult ones, provides an opportunity to challenge our self-defeating, negative thoughts. And this isn’t just fluff. Scientific research has proven that when you look at life through a lens of positivity, you are more likely to enjoy better mental and physical health. #mindfulmonday #mindfulness #resilience #optimism #choosejoy #protectyourpeace #mindovermoment #mentalhealth #mentalhealthmatters

Raising a child who suffers from mental illness is the hardest thing I have ever done, and it truly tests the meaning of unconditional love.

In the past I have felt conflicted, wondering if my son Evan’s story was mine to tell, but as he has gotten older, he has asked me to share his story as a way to help others. He understands the shame and stigma attached to mental illness first hand, and his bravery and courage in allowing me to share his story is one of my proudest accomplishments.

One in five adults and children struggle with a serious mental health problem in their lifetime, which means that every single one of us is impacted by this public health crisis. Join me on this #WorldMentalHealthDay in helping build awareness and acceptance for people with mental illness. We are all in this together. #mentalillnessawareness #mentalhealth #nami #resilience #advocate #togetherformentalhealth #reducethestigma

It's okay not to be okay.

There is no age requirement for mental illness. My son began exhibiting symptoms before he was a year old and was on his first anti-psychotic by the age of 4. I hear parents say, “it’s just a phase. It’s hormones”. It may be, but do you really want to take that chance? The worst thing you can do is ignore it, hope it goes away, or say things like, “This too shall pass”.

The only thing worse than struggling with a mental health issue is trying to convince people it’s real. It is isolating, overwhelming, and scary. If you or someone you know needs help, there is no shame in asking for it, and if someone asks you for help, don’t dismiss it.

The only way to reduce the stigma around mental health is to talk about it. I share our story as a way to let people know they are not alone. By sharing some of my experiences, many others have felt comfortable doing the same. It is my hope that you will share this post so others know they are not alone. #mentalillnessawarenessweek #mentalillnessawareness #mentalhealthcheckin #mentalhealth #emotionalwellbeing #reducethestigma #nami #mentalhealthadvocate #togetherformentalhealth #momsofmentalhealthkids #speaker #author #resilience #strongertogether


Anne Grady is a Speaker, Author, and #TruthBomb Dropper.

Anne shares practical strategies that can be applied both personally and professionally to improve relationships, navigate change, and triumph over adversity. And she’ll make you laugh while she does it. Anne is a two time TEDx speaker, and her work has been featured in numerous media outlets, including Harvard Business Review, Entrepreneur, Forbes, Fast Company and Inc. magazines, CNN, ESPN, and FOX Business. She is the best selling author of 52 Strategies for Life, Love & Work and Strong Enough: Choosing Courage, Resilience and Triumph.

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