Have you ever met someone who was just this negative? It’s like they are mad at the world and everyone is perceived as a threat. Negativity can spread around us like wildfire if we’re not careful. Here are a few ways to handle the haters:
- 80-90% of the way people act is based on how they see themselves. If you know someone that is chronically negative, chances are, they don’t like themselves a whole lot. If you’re miserable, it’s easier to make those around you miserable.
- Q-TIP: Quit Taking It Personally. If 80-90% of what people do is based on how they feel about themselves, it really has nothing to do with you. When you make it personal, you make it a problem.
- Focus on getting it right, rather than being right. You can’t play tug of war alone. Let negative people have their power struggles and self-induced frustration. You don’t have to take part in it.
- Set boundaries. Remember, no one can force you into negativity. Keep your boundaries very clear. For more information on setting boundaries, check out my previous post.
- Avoid them. Normally, I’m not a big fan of avoidance, because it generally makes things worse, but in this case, stay away. The less contact you have with negativity, the less likely it will rub off.
- Forward this blog post. Often people aren’t even aware that they come across so negatively. Sometimes, gently pointing it out or saying, “Now tell me something positive”, can create self-awareness.
Negativity is contagious. It is a nasty little virus that spreads if we let it. So to all the haters out there, relax, life is too short to be so negative. Smile…it makes your face look better, and it will make you a whole lot happier.