When I was little, my mom gave me some pretty great advice, “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.” While I truly make an effort to apply this rule to conversations with and about other people, it never occurred to me to use it when thinking about myself.
Last week, I got lost (like I often do), and when I was asking for directions, I started the sentence with, “I’m a moron and completely directionally illiterate!” While a little self-deprecating humor can lighten just about any situation, negative self-talk can be just as bad, if not worse, then saying negative things about others.
Do you find yourself saying nasty little things to yourself that you would never say to someone else? Unfortunately, those little negative messages add up, and eventually, they impact the way you see yourself.
Dr. David J. Abbott explains that when you change the things you look at, the way you look at things changes. When you change the things you talk about, the way you talk about things changes. When you change the things you think about, the way you think about things changes.
Remember, you act like the kind of person you think you are. Be kind to yourself and make sure you’re sending the right messages. It will determine what you see when you look in the mirror.