Resilience

Resilience

Resilience

Motivational message.Over the last several months, I have really come to appreciate the concept of resilience.  Whether it be some personal roller coasters I’ve had to ride, those recovering from disaster in Oklahoma, or your own personal struggles, resilience is a is a concept that can serve you well.

Resilience is defined as the ability to recover from or adjust easily to misfortune or change.

We often hear people say that children are resilient and can overcome a great deal, but what about adults?  When we get knocked down, how to we get up time and time again?  Lately I’ve felt like one of those knock down punching toys you had when you were little (I may be dating myself), but they were inflatable punching bags that popped back up after you knock them down.  Over and over again, they just popped back up.  I have felt like one of those bags lately, and I’ve learned a few things.

1.  Keep the big picture in mind.  It is incredibly easy to lose sight of the forest and get stuck in the trees when you are knocked down.  Stay focused on what really matters to you in the long run and keep a broad outlook.

2.  Focus on your strengths and accomplishments.  When you’re knocked down, it’s easy to feel down.  Remember what makes you amazing.  You are full of strengths, accomplishments, and goodness.  You are strong and capable of handling anything that is thrown your way.

3.  Renew your sense of purpose.  Take some time to get re-grounded and focus on your personal values, your goals, and what is important to you.

4.  Take care of yourself.  Many of us have learned to put other people’s needs before our own.  It is ok to take time to take care of you.  Whether it’s some time alone, a massage, or reading a positive, uplifting book, take time for yourself.  You will never find this time.  You have to make this time.

5.  Focus on what you can control.  Rather than getting wrapped up in what-if’s, other people’s faults, or external events, focus on the things with which you have direct and immediate control.

6.  Surround yourself with productive people.  A support system is one of your biggest tools in your battle to stay resilient.  Surround yourself with people that are loving, kind, supportive, and positive.

7.  Re-frame the way you’re thinking.  What can you learn from this experience?  How can this make you stronger?  How can this prepare you for the struggles you will surely continue to experience in your life?  What little lessons can you eke out of the situation?

If you’ve been knocked down lately (or know someone who has), focus on resilience.  I have to keep reminding myself that I would not be given more than I am capable of handling (someone has way too much confidence in me at times), but it’s true.  We are resilient by nature; we just have to work a little harder at it some days.

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One of my favorite quotes is by Nelson Mandela. He said, "The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall."

It's a fact. Successful people fail more than unsuccessful people. Successful people take risks, they view failure as a learning tool, and they practice resilience. #mindfulmonday #mindfulness #mindset #resilience #failuretothrive #fearasfuel #fallandgetbackup #nelsonmandelaquotes #yougotthis
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Today is #worldsuicidepreventionday - a day to raise awareness and address the stigma associated with this important mental health concern.

I have lost two people I love very much to suicide, and nearly 800,000 people die by suicide in the world each year. That means every 40 seconds, someone hurts so badly that they see no other way out.

If you know someone who is struggling, please be their lifeline.

I support @namicommunicate and @namicentraltx efforts to connect those who are hurting to the treatment and support they need. #together4mh #mentalhealthmatters #mentalhealthawareness #suicideprevention #suicidepreventionmonth #nami #togetherwecan
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What is a special quote or song lyric that really resonates with you?

Mine is a lyric from "Mother Blues" by @raywylie, and it is one of my favorite ways to look at life. He sings:

“The days that I keep my gratitude higher than my expectations, well, I have really good days.”

Choose to be purposeful about your daily practices and create the habits that support the life you want. Be kind to yourself, savor delicious moments, and practice gratitude. #wednesdaywisdom #gratitude #deliciousmoments #resilience #favoritelyrics #mantra #quotes #raywyliehubbard
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How many times have you said to yourself, "I’m just not a ______ person" (athletic, creative, etc.)?

Your belief in your abilities is nothing more than a mindset. A fixed mindset is the belief that you are who you are, that your capabilities and talents are set in stone, and you feel the need to compare yourself to others and prove yourself.

A growth mindset on the other hand allows you to look at failure not as a blow to your self-esteem but as a way to grow and improve. If you have a growth mindset, failure means you should try harder, stretch yourself, and continue to grow.

To combat a fixed mindset, try adding the word "Yet" to the end of your story. "I’m not good at it...yet." This helps you remember that this is not something you should already be good at, and it is enough to put your logical brain back in charge. #growthmindset #mindset #failureasfuel #resilience #personalgrowth #personaldevelopment #flipyourthinking
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Heading back to school is always a big event (especially after 2020)! Which means many of you are juggling earlier wake-up times, morning traffic, helping with homework, and after-school activities.

When we are running on fumes, feeling stressed, overwhelmed, and exhausted, we inadvertently normalize this behavior for our kids. Here are two things you can do to manage feelings and emotions, while building your own resilience and modeling it for your kids:

1️⃣ Name your emotions

You may have heard the saying "name it to tame it". Labeling and naming emotions makes them easier to deal with by taking some of their power away. By putting feelings into words, you give yourself more control over them. 

Get curious about your emotions. Is it really anger you're feeling, or are you hurt? If so, why? We typically try to push uncomfortable emotions away, and that only serves to increase their intensity and duration, while undermining our ability to deal with them. When your kids are upset, sad, happy, insecure, etc., get them to start talking about their feelings. Help them name the emotion so they will develop a habit of doing it themselves.

2️⃣ Accept all emotions

Many of us have been conditioned from a young age to ignore or suppress emotions, especially the crappy ones, but we can’t begin to process our emotions if we don’t let ourselves sit in them. And while some of our emotions aren’t comfortable, they are all necessary. If we didn’t have the uncomfortable emotions, we wouldn’t appreciate the great ones. Rather than try to cheer up your kids every time they are upset, let them know that it’s okay to not feel okay.

Wishing you and your kiddos a resilient school year! #resilience #backtoschool #resilientkids #nameittotameit #emotionsareinformation #mindfulness #mindset #growthmindset #stress #overwhelm #burnout #parenting #childdevelopment #wellbeing
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Anne shares practical strategies that can be applied both personally and professionally to improve relationships, navigate change, and triumph over adversity. And she’ll make you laugh while she does it. Anne is a two time TEDx speaker, and her work has been featured in numerous media outlets, including Harvard Business Review, Entrepreneur, Forbes, Fast Company and Inc. magazines, CNN, ESPN, and FOX Business. She is the best selling author of 3 books. Her newest, Mind Over Moment: Harness the Power of Resilience, is available on Amazon now.

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