Saying I’m Sorry

Saying I'm Sorry

Saying I’m Sorry

Well, we’re back from a wonderful vacation in the Northeast.  We were visiting family, and I have to admit, I was a bit nervous, as they have not spent a whole lot of time around Evan. Our immediate family has gotten used to his behavior and have learned to cope with it, but it can be a lot for someone who has never been around him to handle.  I must have apologized fifty times for different things, and that was only the first afternoon.  I finally relaxed and realized, it is what it is, and all I can do is all I can do.

But it did get me thinking about apologies in general.  If you’ve ever tried to give an apology, chances are, you’ve used these two simple words, “I’m sorry”.  If you’ve ever tried to accept an apology, I’m willing to bet that sometimes these two simple words just don’t cut it.

So often, apologies seem forced and insincere.  A few years ago, I watched the Randy Pausch interview with Oprah Winfrey.  Randy Pausch was the guy who gave The Last Lecuture at Carnegie Melon University after being diagnosed with Pancriatic Cancer.  He passed away in July of 2008.

Randy spoke of living your childhood dreams.  It’s a fantastic short video, and I’d highly recommend it.

In the video, Randy explained that one of the things we need to learn to do is apologize correctly.  A true apology, he explains, has three parts:

  1.  I’m Sorry
  2. I was wrong
  3. What can I do to make it right

When you think about the apologies you’ve gotten and given, do they contain these three elements?  It seems pretty simple, but I have found it is a great formula to demonstrate you are really taking ownership of your mistake.  It’s a powerful tool in helping build relationships.

We ended up having a fantastic time on vacation.  We went to the beach, the zoo, ate lobster, saw fireworks, and ate way too much.  Evan did amazingly well, and we are declaring our family vacation of 2012 a success.  Check out pictures of our vacation on Facebook!

Time to reflect. 🌈😂 #fridayfunny #dadjokes ...

If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.

Most of us are taught this simple lesson when we are kids. Unfortunately, it is not always practiced once we are adults. The human tendency to attribute our behavior to our intent and others’ behaviors to the type of person they are is referred to as the fundamental attribution error. Someone runs a stop sign, and we think they are a jerk. We run a stop sign and “oops”.

Regardless of our intentions, people only know what they see through our actions, and we only know what we see through the actions of others. In between our intentions and our actions lies a chasm.

How do you bridge the gap between intentions and actions? Try the following strategies 👆👆

Sometimes we inadvertently make our life a whole lot more difficult than it needs to be. It’s time to help others help you. #mindfulmonday ...

Ah, difficult conversations. You know, that conversation with your partner, co-worker, boss, or family member that you just don’t want to have.

While there is no magic formula that applies to every tough conversation, I have found that the following 7-steps makes it much easier. 🗣️

When we can separate our identity from our abilities, we are able to learn from failure, rather than assign judgment. #mindfulmonday #growthmindset #mindfulness #personalgrowth #success ...

Building resilience is a journey, y’all. 🤠💪 ...

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  1. There was a large space between your paragraphs, immediately after you said it’s a fantastic video and I highly recommend it, and then the next paragraph. Was there supposed to be a link to the video? If there was supposed to be a link could you send the link again?
    Glad you guys had a great vacation did all of you laugh at each other’s accents? When I was in elementary school we moved from Dayton, Ohio to Long Beach, CA. I was kidded about my Yankee accent. Then as an adult I moved to TX. everyone kept telling me to slow down, I talked too fast. It’s really cool that we sound so different just going from one area of the country to another.

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