Do you feel unhappy, frustrated, or just plain stuck?

Be it in our personal lives or our professional lives, we all can wake up one day feeling less than satisfied about where we are. But that negative dialogue in our heads can be reversed with a simple shift in perspective. Success starts with the messages we send ourselves each and every day. Watch the video to discover how you can shake those negative thoughts and re-frame your life simply by changing the way you talk to yourself.

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VIDEO TRANSCRIPT:

“Hey guys, it’s Anne. I wanted to find a way to engage with you a little bit differently. I post blogs and videos, but I really wanted to start connecting with you individually and sharing some of the great questions that I get asked when I’m at a speaking engagement or a training session.

Recently, I got asked a question that really made me think. A woman named Shauna came up to me and said, “You know, I thought when I got done with school life was going to be easy. I was excited about starting a career, a family, getting married…” Now here she is several years later — bored at work, not thrilled in her marriage, and just frustrated. She asked what I thought she could do about it.

I think this gets common as we get a little bit older. We start thinking about what our life could have been or should have been, and we start beating ourselves up for where we are. I talk a lot about communication in business and in relationships, but I think in this case it has to start with how you communicate to yourself about yourself.

It’s difficult to see the world in a way that is inconsistent with the way you see yourself. Everything starts with the messages we send ourselves. And if you’re sending yourself messages like “I’m bored” and “I’m unhappy,” you start to find those things — because we do find what we look for.

So my advice to Shauna, and anybody else who might be feeling a little stuck, is to start with the way you talk to yourself. Know that your life’s not perfect — nobody’s life is perfect — but there are great moments. And when you look for them, you find them.

When you start sending yourself affirming messages like, “You know what, it is what it is. I’ll make steps toward improvement. I’ll work toward my goals and I’ll make things happen,” that’s way healthier than “I’m miserable, I’m unhappy, I’m bored, I’m a failure.”

Think about it: if you had a personal trainer that talked to you the way you sometimes talk to yourself… I wouldn’t talk to my worst enemy the way I end up talking to myself sometimes. And this is the biggest form of self-sabotage.
If you want your life to dramatically improve, start with how you talk to yourself about it. Start changing your message, start reframing your perspective, and look for little things to find gratitude. Be grateful for those small, delicious moments and savor them. Focus on where you want to end up.

I hope this answer helps you, Shauna, and I hope it helps the rest of us who can get stuck every now and then. I’d love to hear your questions and start a conversation, so please leave them in the comments below, shoot me an email at hello@amgradygroup.com, and I hope you have a wonderful week.

Take care.”