What if you could ask three questions that could transform your professional relationships?  They aren’t magic, but they are pretty close to it.

If it’s true, and I believe that it is, that we train people how to treat us, then these questions will not only train people how to treat you, but it allows you to treat them the way they want to be treated as well.  It’s like the Golden Rule, only better.  I call it the platinum rule.


The next time you want to improve a relationship with someone you work with, try asking these three questions:

  1. What is the one thing I can always turn to you for?
  2. What is the best way to communicate with you on a project?
  3. What is one thing you would rather I not ask you to do?

While these three questions won’t solve all problems or create world peace, they are certainly a good start!

What other questions do you think should be added to the list?  Comment here or join the discussion on Facebook!


  1. I’d say the two questions that have worked for me are

    What’s most important to you?
    What are your priorities?

    If you get the answer to these two questions, you’re on the right path to improving any relationship (even with your teenager).

  2. In annual evaluations the last couple of years one of the issues has been a desire for better communication. I gave the three questions to supervisors and asked that they get responses from their staff. The results are beginning to come in and I am very impressed. Thanks for sharing this tool.

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