Reality Check, We All Have Blind Spots

Reality Check, We All Have Blind Spots

Reality Check, We All Have Blind Spots

I was talking to someone last week after a presentation, and she said, “All this leadership and communication stuff is great, but it doesn’t really apply to me. Everyone likes me.”

That may be true sister, but let’s face it, you don’t know what you don’t know.  We all have blind spots.  A blind spot is a part of our personality or behavior that we’re not aware of, yet others can see it.  And regardless of our intelligence, emotional or otherwise, we all have them.

If you want to continue to grow, personally or professionally, it helps to become more self-aware.

If you’re ready for a reality check and want to uncover your blind spots, try these suggestions:

  1. You have to want to know what your blind spots are.  If you’re not ready to uncover them, that’s ok.  Ignorance is bliss and sometimes we’re not in a place to “work” on our own issues.  Give yourself permission not to worry about it until it’s something you can really focus on.
  2. If you do seek feedback, be prepared to listen without getting defensive.  Ask questions and make statements, but don’t attack and don’t defend.
  3. Ask the people who know you and care about you to be honest and give you constructive feedback.   Giving feedback is a risk, so be grateful if people are willing to give it.
  4. Pick one area and focus on it.  Behavior changes one of three ways:  rarely, slowly, or never.  Don’t try to bite off more than you can chew.  It will become overwhelming and nothing will change.
  5. Seek on-going feedback and make it safe for people to provide it.  If you get defensive and argumentative, people will stop giving you feedback.
  6. Ask for positive, as well as constructive feedback.  Ask others about your strengths and where they see you making progress.
  7. It’s a journey, not a destination.  No matter how enlightened we are, we’ll always have some blind spots, and that’s ok.  Continuously striving for progress is the goal.

How do you uncover your blind spots?  Comment below!

What emotion best describes what you have been feeling lately?

I ask this question in every session I facilitate. Typical answers include: Exhausted, overwhelmed, anxious, irritable, frustrated, and the most common, burnt out.

If you are struggling with burnout, try this:

1️⃣ Make a list of all of the things causing you stress (include personal and professional stressors). Divide the list into two columns: Things I can control/Things I cannot control. From the list of things you can control, identify one action you can take to move the ball forward.

2️⃣ Have honest conversations. One-third of all people globally have struggled with anxiety and/or depression since the beginning of the pandemic. People are undoubtedly not fine and feeling like we should be makes things even worse. Guess what? It’s okay not to be fine. Talk with friends and family about how you are really doing. It makes it safe for them to do the same.

3️⃣ Renew your sense of purpose. Respondents in a recent @harvard_business_review survey said that feeling a sense of purpose helped defend against burnout at work. In fact, burnout scores declined as purpose scores increased. It is much harder to feel defeated when you have a deep sense of meaning for what you are working toward.

Take time this week to create clear boundaries, make time for self-care, and recharge your mental and emotional battery. #mentalhealthawarenessmonth #burnout #stress #emotions #resilience
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Far too many of us are struggling with very real concerns: our health (physical and mental), the health of our loved ones, our finances, the economy, our kids’ education—there’s no shortage of stress and worry to occupy our every waking moment.

It is in times like this that the strategies I teach for a living are needed more than ever. They are a lifeline.

May is #MentalHealthAwarenessMonth and I want to give you three simple ways you can improve your mental health, build resilience, and protect your peace. More in the link 👇.
https://www.annegradygroup.com/protect-your-peace/
#resilience #mentalhealthawareness #mentalwellbeing #resources #nami #youarenotalone #mindovermoment
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#ThrowbackThursday to when I got to speak with @malcolmgladwell!!

Thank you to @conferencesforwomen for the opportunity to attend your #WorkplaceSummit today and listen to him address the dramatic changes in the world of work. He said, "As a leader, what may have worked before may not be what works now or in the future. We must adjust our leadership style to the moment we are living in." #futureofwork #mindfulleadership #growthmindset #adapt #grow #malcolmgladwell
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When was the last time the sh*t hit your fan?

It's natural when faced with an overwhelming situation to feel defeated, but people who practice resilience learn to see the situation a bit differently. They look at the problem and say:

What is this teaching me?
What can I learn from this?

It might not feel like it at the time, but when you make it through a difficult event, you learn something – it’s called post-traumatic growth. Growth and comfort don’t exist in the same place. Choose growth anyway. #resilience #growth #posttraumaticgrowth #failure #mindset #personaldevelopment #tedx #tedxspeaker
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5 Comments

  1. Great advice!! Had to share some feedback with a friend over the weekend regarding how he communicates with another person who he’d been complaining about. It was a minefield, but went really well (and he already knew what I was saying was true, so that helped a lot), but when carefully worded, it can be great for everyone involved.

  2. Wow. That’s great. I always say, “sometimes I may say things you may not like, so I apologize in advance, but if I hurt your feelings, let me know.” We all have people that like us, but those that don’t may never say it. I loved that statement ” you don’t know what you don’t know.” Thank you Anne! That was great.

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