Reality Check, We All Have Blind Spots
Reality Check, We All Have Blind Spots
Reality Check, We All Have Blind Spots
I was talking to someone last week after a presentation, and she said, “All this leadership and communication stuff is great, but it doesn’t really apply to me. Everyone likes me.”
That may be true sister, but let’s face it, you don’t know what you don’t know. We all have blind spots. A blind spot is a part of our personality or behavior that we’re not aware of, yet others can see it. And regardless of our intelligence, emotional or otherwise, we all have them.
If you want to continue to grow, personally or professionally, it helps to become more self-aware.
If you’re ready for a reality check and want to uncover your blind spots, try these suggestions:
- You have to want to know what your blind spots are. If you’re not ready to uncover them, that’s ok. Ignorance is bliss and sometimes we’re not in a place to “work” on our own issues. Give yourself permission not to worry about it until it’s something you can really focus on.
- If you do seek feedback, be prepared to listen without getting defensive. Ask questions and make statements, but don’t attack and don’t defend.
- Ask the people who know you and care about you to be honest and give you constructive feedback. Giving feedback is a risk, so be grateful if people are willing to give it.
- Pick one area and focus on it. Behavior changes one of three ways: rarely, slowly, or never. Don’t try to bite off more than you can chew. It will become overwhelming and nothing will change.
- Seek on-going feedback and make it safe for people to provide it. If you get defensive and argumentative, people will stop giving you feedback.
- Ask for positive, as well as constructive feedback. Ask others about your strengths and where they see you making progress.
- It’s a journey, not a destination. No matter how enlightened we are, we’ll always have some blind spots, and that’s ok. Continuously striving for progress is the goal.
How do you uncover your blind spots? Comment below!
Weekend reminder 📲🚫
The average person experiences 5-6 traumas in a lifetime. The question is not whether you will get knocked down – that’s a given. You can, however, build your psychological immune system so that you not only survive the tough times but get stronger as a result.
Check out my last post 👉 for a few ways to build psychological immunity. #resilience #strength #personalgrowth #keepgoing #youarenotalone #mentalwellness
The common cold. A stomach virus. COVID. All wreak havoc on your immune system.
Your genetic makeup, along with a host of other variables (general health, sleep, nutrition, fitness, etc.) all play a part in determining how your body responds to anything that tries to weaken it. The same is true for your psychological immune system.
Here are a few ways to build psychological immunity. 💪 #resilience #reset #mindfulness #mindfilliving #selfcare #boundaries #optimism #strenght #mindset #psychologicalsafety #mentalwellbeing
We find what we look for.
Be intentional about finding the good in people and situations. Take notice of little moments and communicate your gratitude to others. The more specific, the better. Your brain becomes primed to start finding the good stuff out there, and there is plenty of it — even in difficult times. #mindfulmonday #mindfulness #mindset #resilience #optimism #gratitude
Happy Friday from the ranch!
Whether it is a nap with your favorite stuffed animal or watching football with friends, enjoy some downtime this weekend.
We have created an impossible, unrealistic standard of what we think we are supposed to do to be successful. This has resulted in a public health crisis. Forty-five percent of women will be on an antidepressant or anti-anxiety medication in their lifetime (the numbers for men aren’t much better).
Stop holding yourself to unrealistic expectations. Set clear boundaries, practice self-care, and show up vulnerably. Strive for progress, not perfection. #resilience #expectations #progressnotperfection #selfcare #personaldevelopment #success
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“You don’t know what you don’t know. That is a great statement.
Great advice!! Had to share some feedback with a friend over the weekend regarding how he communicates with another person who he’d been complaining about. It was a minefield, but went really well (and he already knew what I was saying was true, so that helped a lot), but when carefully worded, it can be great for everyone involved.
Hi Val! Sounds like you did your friend a huge favor, and props to you for taking the time and risk to provide feedback!
Wow. That’s great. I always say, “sometimes I may say things you may not like, so I apologize in advance, but if I hurt your feelings, let me know.” We all have people that like us, but those that don’t may never say it. I loved that statement ” you don’t know what you don’t know.” Thank you Anne! That was great.
Thanks, Juanita! I like the way you preface giving feedback. Great idea.