My good friend Jessica has a quote in her email signature that says,
“Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle” – T.H. Thompson and John Watson
Whenever she emails, I’m reminded of her willingness to live her life true to those words, and she does.
As I have shared, my son Evan is mentally ill, and some days are more difficult than others. After several specialists, dozens of doctors, and more medication than any child should have to take, he is still not healthy enough to experience what childhood has to offer “normal” kids. He lives and experiences a very different world than most kids his age, and subsequently our entire family does too. Doctors, behavior specialists , dedicated special education staff at school, caregivers helping us at home, and several pills to swallow with each meal are all part of Evan’s typical day.
At the same time, work must be done and life must continue. I was at HEB in the checkout line the other day when the woman in front of me was all but screaming at the poor bagger because he had squished her bread. My first thought was, “How rude!” But then, I watched her, and she started to cry. I’m not sure what was going on in her life, but it was obvious she was having an extremely hard time.
The cashier started talking about her to me before the woman had even left the line. He rolled his eyes and joked at her anger. I simply said, you never know what someone is dealing with. We are all just doing the best we can.
I wish I could say that I’ve handled all of my struggles with grace and poise, but the truth is, I’m sure I’ve snapped at people and not been the nicest person to be around at times. Sometimes, it is just too overwhelming.
Whether we are rich or poor, young or old, educated or not, we are all doing the best we can given our current circumstances. I can say I am incredibly blessed to have such an amazing support system, you included.
You never know what someone is dealing with, and you never know when you might need someone to be a little empathetic and understanding when you are struggling.
This Thanksgiving, please be thankful and grateful for what you have. More importantly, think about what you’re grateful for the next day, and the day after that, and every day you’re lucky enough to be alive.
On behalf of my self and the SSG Team, Happy Thanksgiving.