I admit it, and I’m calling myself out on this one. While I’m about to lay out veritable words of wisdom, this is definitely one I’m guilty of doing.
Why do we try so hard to please others?
It’s like our puppy, Bernie. If ever there was a cuter puppy who wanted to please their owner, I haven’t met him…or her. He is content to wag his tail and make us smile. It’s awesome. Unfortunately, most of us aren’t as cute as Bernie and face licking is frowned upon.
For some of us, it’s easy to go overboard, and at some point, enough is enough. There comes a time when you have to make a conscious decision to be comfortable being the best version of you, regardless of what others think.
There’s nothing better than a great story to illustrate a point:
An old man and a young boy were travelling through their village with their donkey. The boy rode on the donkey and the old man walked.
As they went along they passed some people who remarked it was a shame the old man was walking and the boy was riding. The man and boy thought maybe the critics were right, so they changed positions.
Later, they passed some people that remarked, “What a shame, he makes that little boy walk.” They then decided they both would walk!
Soon they passed some more people who thought they were stupid to walk when they had a decent donkey to ride. So, they both rode the donkey.
Now they passed some people that shamed them by saying “how awful to put such a load on a poor donkey”. The boy and man said they were probably right, so they decided to carry the donkey.
As they crossed the bridge, they lost their grip on the animal, and he fell into the river and drowned.
The moral of the story?
If you try to please everyone, you might as well kiss your ass goodbye.