Live On Purpose
If we are not careful, we can become slaves to our habits, and they become a way to live life unconsciously, rather than deliberately choosing what we want and creating a path to get there.
- Before you check your inbox in the morning, make a list of all the things that MUST get done that day. Then, make a list of things you would like to accomplish (these things are important, just not imperative). Ideally, do this at the end of the day, so you can hit the ground running in the morning. Then, as you are going through the madness that I’m sure is your Inbox and new requests come in, make a conscious decision to either re-prioritize your list or communicate a realistic timeline. You may find that this new action is more important, or you may decide to wait. Either way, it will be your choice.
- Take regular breaks. Ideally, you should get up from your desk for a quick walk and drink of water every hour. You may think you don’t have the time, but trust me, you don’t have time not to. This is called strategic stopping, and it gives you a chance to take back control. Take a few deep breaths and make sure you are focused on making choices that will ultimately help you.
- When you find yourself triggered (pay attention to physiological and psychological changes like sweaty palms, tight shoulders, anxiety, etc.), ask yourself why. What, who, why are you triggered. Then make a conscious decision how to respond, rather than react. This takes practice, and you won’t get it right every time.
- Spend 10-minutes each morning quietly focusing on your breath. Your mind will wander, and it will be like playing whac-a-mole with your thoughts. That’s okay and actually means it is working. Just observe the thought and watch it float by as you return to your breath. While it may not seem like it’s making a difference at first, you are repairing the part of your brain damaged by stress that is responsible for attention and emotional regulation. This allows you to train yourself to be less emotionally reactive.
- Tentatively respond to meetings. I’m not sure when our workday became a version of “death by meeting”, but we spend so much time talking about what we are going to do that we never actually have time to do it. When you get a meeting invite, make sure it’s a meeting you need to be a part of. Do they need your input, or could you simply ask for a re-cap of the meeting after the fact.
If we’re not careful, we will end up where we are headed, and it’s not always the place we want to be. Life is full of twists and turns, and there will be time when you have no other choice but to react. That’s why it is so important that you take control of the times that you can make a conscious choice. As you practice these strategies, it will get easier. Don’t forget to focus on gratitude, breathe, and realize that in 10 years, most of what you are stressed about won’t matter. Life is short. Live yours on purpose.