Stop Waiting For January!

Stop Waiting For January!

Stop Waiting For January

Have you ever said, “Starting in January, I will…”? In December, a lot of people throw in the towel for the year. They wait until January rolls around to find that renewed sense of purpose and focus, only to have it dwindle as the year goes on. Priorities shift, circumstances change, and life always seems to somehow get in the way.

Next year, I’ll go back to school.
Next month, I’ll start going to the gym.
Next week, I’ll focus on growing my business.
Tomorrow, I’ll start prioritizing my mental health.

The excuses go on and on. But let me ask you this…

If you can’t do it today, what hope do you have on January 1st?

You don’t have to wait until New Year’s Day to get clear on goals, priorities, and habits that will set you up for success.

I know this time of year can be a time of anxiety, stress, and a general feeling of overwhelm in the midst of the nostalgia, joy, and peace. On top of that, this time of year tends to be more difficult for those suffering from anxiety, depression, ADHD, mood disorders, and any other mental health issue. We still can’t get an accurate reason why, but this time of year is always tremendously hard with Evan. It then ripples and creates disruption for the rest of the family.

But, life will give you what you accept. It’s a choice! And it’s one only you can make.

Shift your mindset with these 5 strategies to finish the year strong! 💪🏻


#1 – Keep the Holidays “Happy”

The word “happy” can set the expectation that everything is supposed to be perfect. Well, guess what? Expectations are the death of happiness. When we are angry, frustrated, or disappointed, it’s usually because our expectations and reality are out of alignment. Just remember, you are doing a kick-ass job. Take time to pat yourself and others on the back for all of the things that have been accomplished.

Focus on the delicious moments, celebrate what’s most important, and be kind to yourself. If we use perfection as our litmus test for happiness, we end up missing the boat. Make progress your target for success instead.

#2 – Presence > Presents

We spend at least fifty percent of our waking time mind-wandering and not focused on the present moment. When our mind wanders, we lose touch with the present and go into endless thought loops about the past or future. While doing his PhD research at Harvard, Matt Killingsworth invented an iPhone app called Track Your Happiness that captures feelings in real time. He collected over 650,000 real-time reports from more than 15,000 people. He found that people are substantially less happy when their minds are wandering than when they’re not. In fact, as it turns out, people are less happy when they’re mind-wandering no matter what they’re doing.

You can get in to more of the data from the study by watching his TED Talk. Being present with others doesn’t just mean time spent. It means being intentional and deliberate about your actions; bringing your full self to the interaction. Remember the reason for the season and cherish your loved ones.

#3 – Define Success and Work Backwards

Pretend you could wave a magic wand. When you go back to work after the holidays – after the family visits, parties, and a few too many cookies – how would you like to see things at work and at home? Work backwards from there. It’s easy to get busy being busy. The question “What do I want my life to look like?” is enormous and scary. But let’s face it, we’re choosing our direction every day, every hour.

All too often, we land somewhere, draw a bull’s eye around ourselves, and declare it a victory rather than deliberately taking time to identify where we want to end up and creating a clear path to get there.

#4 – Create a system of accountability

Accountability simply means ownership. If you own something, you authorize yourself to take control of it, and immediately change from being a victim to being in the driver’s seat. Many people say “But I can’t make that change because…” Inaction is still a choice.

It’s not: I can’t work out because I’m already working 18 hour a day.
It’s: I choose to not make working out a priority.

Do you take ownership of relationships, projects, problems, and solutions? Do you own the choices you make each day? Set deadlines, enlist support, gather needed resources, but whatever you do, always keep your promises to yourself.

#5 – Allow Yourself to Hit Reset

For over 6 years, we had an in-home caregiver to help with our son, Evan, and he had such a calming presence. After an episode or a difficult interaction, Michael would literally send us to opposite ends of the house and tell us all to reset. To start fresh. He reminded us to focus on what’s really important – our family, our love, our health, future, and our priorities.

reset is about perspective. How we choose to interpret a situation dictates our response and our brain chemistry matches it. There are family dynamics that cause anxiety, rushing around to finish last minute tasks at work and home, kids out of school that need to be entertained, and financial pressure. Throw in a healthy dose of self-judgment for any goals or resolutions where you might have fallen short, and then we beat ourselves up. You’re human. Take it one day at a time and be proud of yourself when you succeed at achieving clarity amidst chaos. You can choose to reset at any time.

The more peaceful you feel, the easier it will be for those around you to step into their happy place, too. Focus on what’s most important first, and the rest will fall into place. It’s a gift that the whole family will appreciate. We appreciate you and want to sincerely thank you for being part of the Anne Grady Group community. Stay tuned to see all of the exciting things we are rolling out in 2020!

From our family to yours, wishing you a mindful, grateful, and peaceful holiday season.


#WednesdayWisdom from @mrdavehollis. I'm really excited to check out his new book #BuiltThroughCourage.

The main difference between those who courageously act and those who stay stuck amounts to how we view fear. Courage is not the absence of fear. Courage is being afraid and working through the discomfort. Courage means you allow challenge and adversity to be a catalyst to help you grow strong enough to face whatever life throws at you.

What types of courage come easily for you? Which ones are more difficult? And what blocks you from behaving courageously in the circumstances you face? 💪 #wednesdaywisdom #courage #resilience #fearasfuel #reframefear #mindset #personaldevelopment


As research for my book "Mind Over Moment: Harness the Power of Resilience", I spent a lot of time learning what helps develop and maintain resilience and have boiled it down to three main areas: Your mindset, skillset, and your ability to reset.

But just like anything else, knowing what builds resilience isn’t enough. You have to actively practice these skills. In this month's blog, I'm showing you how. Link in my bio! 👆 #resilience #mindset #mindfulness #mindovermoment #blog #skillset #reset #habits #personalgrowth #personaldevelopment #youareasurvivor💪

Happiness is a skill.

If you aren’t feeling very happy, satisfied, or content, look for blips of happiness. If you’re feeling angry, frustrated, or overwhelmed, look for blips of relief and realize that this too shall pass. No one is always happy or never happy. Happiness, just like sadness, and just about every other emotion happens in little blips. We get to choose which blips we focus on. #mindfulmonday #mindfulness #reslience #happiness #optimism #deliciousmoments #emotionalgrowth #personaldevelopment #mindset

What if you could break free from reactivity with a reset—a chance once and for all to define the life you want and create a path to get there, all while building resilience along the way? You can.

It’s time to delve into your automatic thought patterns, belief systems and daily habits to identify which ones are serving you. Resilience is built by deliberately cultivating productive beliefs, behaviors, and habits to intentionally break out of reactivity and live purposefully. If you have found yourself stuck in reactivity either before this pandemic or during it, remember to reset, practice #MindOverMoment, and purposefully build the life you deserve. It’s about what you do starting now that matters. #resilience #mindfulness #authorsofinstagram #booklaunchanniversary #breakout #liveonpurpose #habits #personalgrowth #reset #grow

Don’t neglect what brings you joy.

Sometimes it is easier said than done when you’re in the middle of it, but choosing optimism means you are deliberate about the way you interpret the adversity in your life.

Every situation, especially the difficult ones, provides an opportunity to challenge our self-defeating, negative thoughts. And this isn’t just fluff. Scientific research has proven that when you look at life through a lens of positivity, you are more likely to enjoy better mental and physical health. #mindfulmonday #mindfulness #resilience #optimism #choosejoy #protectyourpeace #mindovermoment #mentalhealth #mentalhealthmatters

Anne Grady is a Speaker, Author, and #TruthBomb Dropper.

Anne shares practical strategies that can be applied both personally and professionally to improve relationships, navigate change, and triumph over adversity. And she’ll make you laugh while she does it. Anne is a two time TEDx speaker, and her work has been featured in numerous media outlets, including Harvard Business Review, Entrepreneur, Forbes, Fast Company and Inc. magazines, CNN, ESPN, and FOX Business. She is the best selling author of 52 Strategies for Life, Love & Work and Strong Enough: Choosing Courage, Resilience and Triumph.

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