The Four Letter Word That Equals Success
The Four Letter Word That Equals Success
Four letter words have gotten a bad reputation. I’m sure you can think of a handful of them right now. There’s one four letter word, however, that equals communication, camaraderie, and results. It has the capability to be extremely powerful, yet it often struggles to reach its full potential. It often causes friction, friendship, and frustration, all at the same time. What is this powerful four letter word? TEAM.
You’ve probably seen or heard the acronym for T.E.A.M. (Together Everyone Achieves More). Why then is it so hard to create effective, high performance teams? Because teams are made up of individuals, and individuals are imperfect.
I’m often asked how to improve teamwork, resolve conflicts, and improve communication among team members. There is a pretty straightforward formula that is simple in theory, yet extremely difficult in practice:
ACCOUNTABILITY + COMMUNICATION + PERSONAL LEADERSHIP = SUCCESS
The moment we start owning our actions and behavior, communicate effectively, and demonstrate personal leadership, we can accomplish anything, individually or as a team. Let’s take a look at each piece of the equation.
Accountability
While this has become a business buzz word, it simply means taking ownership, knowing that you can’t control anyone else’s behavior but your own. Playing the victim does nothing but frustrate yourself and others. If you focus on what you can control, YOU, it is much more productive.
Communication
We all communicate in our own unique style. Most people don’t try to intentionally miscommunicate, yet poor communication is the number one culprit of dysfunctional teams. Listen to understand, ask questions, adapt to others’ communication style, and most importantly, assume people have the best intentions.
Personal Leadership
Act with character and integrity, regardless of what other people do, and you’ll be a lot happier and more productive. Most of us know when we’re doing or saying something that is less than praise worthy. Would your mother be proud of your behavior? If not, it’s time to re-evaluate.
Teamwork is not just a skill. It is making conscious choices of our behavior and our attitude. It requires patient, persistence, and practice. Not all four letter words are bad. Some can equal phenomenal success!
I played piano from the time I was four years old until the age of 15 and during that time, I had a lot of recitals. I remember being so nervous before each recital. What if I played the wrong note? What if I forgot the music? My dad would look at me, hold my hands, and say:
Whatever you do, DO NOT think of pink elephants!!
At the time, I had no idea why in the world he would say this. All I do know is that when I sat down to play, all I saw were pink elephants, and I was able to tackle my nerves.
Turns out my dad was helping me to practice the ironic process theory which explains that when we try to suppress our thoughts, we focus on them even more. Seventy to 80% of our thoughts are negative and repetitive. If not managed, intrusive thoughts can lead to anxiety, depression, and a whole host of mental health challenges.
If you tend to get stuck in rumination, or if your thoughts sometimes get the best of you, here are a few ways to take back control:
1️⃣ Recognize that your thoughts are not facts.
2️⃣ Use your brain. Do a math problem, practice a different language, or play a puzzle game. When you access the prefrontal cortex, the higher level thinking part of your brain, you get out of the emotional limbic system.
3️⃣ Distract yourself. Sometimes a simple distraction gives you enough distance to quiet your intrusive thoughts.
4️⃣ Practice mindfulness.
5️⃣ See a therapist. When negative, intrusive thoughts impact your ability to do your job, maintain relationships, or start clouding your judgment, it may be time to get help. As someone with plenty of intrusive thoughts, therapy has helped me tremendously.
Don’t forget, your thoughts and feelings are not facts. They are simply habits that need to be shifted. Be patient with yourself, and if all else fails, whatever you do, DO NOT THINK OF PINK ELEPHANTS!
When you were younger did you have a monster in your closet?
Mine “lived” under my bed, and even though my parents got down on the floor with a flashlight to show me there was no monster, I was still scared it would jump out and get me in the middle of the night.
Your monster may not live in your closet or under your bed now, but make no mistake about it, we all have monsters. They come in the form of stress, anxiety, overwhelm, and other uncomfortable emotions. We try so hard to outrun these monsters. We numb, we suppress, we ignore, and yet, the monsters are still there.
It’s time to hug your monster.
Try this step-by-step process to hug your monster. ⬆️ New blog is up and the link is in my bio!

Anne Grady is a Speaker, Author, and #TruthBomb Dropper.
Anne shares practical strategies that can be applied both personally and professionally to improve relationships, navigate change, and triumph over adversity. And she’ll make you laugh while she does it. Anne is a two time TEDx speaker, and her work has been featured in numerous media outlets, including Harvard Business Review, Entrepreneur, Forbes, Fast Company and Inc. magazines, CNN, ESPN, and FOX Business. She is the best selling author of Mind Over Moment: Harness the Power of Resilience, 52 Strategies for Life, Love & Work, and Strong Enough: Choosing Courage, Resilience and Triumph.
As usual, you got me to click on the teaser and read the post. Love starting my work week off with your posts. A coffee mug with the above graphic would totally ROCK my morning java!
Ha! Glad you like the post. Make it a kick-ass week!
As always, your posts pick me and get me started for the week. And this week’s ending graphic, with the determined and successful baby, is perfect.
Have a great week, Jane!
You always bring a smile to my face on Monday mornings and , wow, it’s Tuesday morning – even better! I enjoyed your talk at the EWTG last week, as did my guests. Keep up the good work. You are truly an inspiration!
I just adore you!
Love this! Our team had a great discussion about these topics last week so great timing and love the photo too.
Thanks, Janet! Have a great week!