Over 85% of our personal and financial success stems not from our technical skills, but from our ability to have positive interpersonal relationships. Whether it’s with a colleague, customer, spouse, boss, friend, or family member, chances are, you’ve had a misunderstanding with someone at one point or another. I generally find that the root cause of most communication, relationship and team problems share a couple of common denominators…differing perspectives and miscommunication.
Most people get stuck because they can’t figure out how they’re going to accomplish their goals. Thankfully, you don’t have to know how. That’s not the way your brain works. If you have a clear picture of your goal and visualize it, your brain will work backward to find ways to make it happen. To create this clear picture, we have to reframe the idea of “new year, new you” away from the expectation of an instant, massive lifestyle change to a daily commitment to training our brains to make decisions based on our true beliefs and values – our core.
When was the last time you put yourself out there and risked being completely vulnerable? This was a question Brene’ Brown asked at the Texas Conference for Women, where I had the honor to speak about harnessing the power of resilience. I often talk about vulnerability and courage because I believe they lie at the heart of resilience. My journey started with my son, Evan.