3 Ways to Think & Behave Courageously (Courage, Resilience) by Anne Grady Professional Conference Motivational Keynote Speaker

As a business owner and the mom of two kids, one with severe special needs, I love the word courage. It means I have to make the decision every day to do something that I know will be difficult, and may even be dangerous. And I need all of the mental and moral strength I can muster to persevere. After hospitalizing my son for a second time, I treated myself to a massage.

The massage therapist pointed out a lump behind my right ear. That lump turned out to be a tumor in my salivary gland. I ended up undergoing six hours of surgery. It turned out the tumor was much larger than my doctors thought, and the surgery had left the right side of my face completely paralyzed. No one was sure for how long or if it might not be permanent. I couldn’t smile, blink, or close my right eye, and I had a speech impediment.

This would not be a good thing for anyone; for me as a professional speaker, I saw my career nosedive. To make matters worse, I had to have a second surgery to repair a scratch on my cornea, because I could not close my eye, before I could have radiation therapy to make sure the tumor didn’t come back!

Half my face was smiling and the other half was mad.

I had to wear an eye patch. I looked like a pirate. Being courageous isn’t hard when you’re happy and everything is hunky dory. It is when you’re exhausted, emotional, angry, and life is far away from what you had planned that finding your courage gets hard. Courage is how we choose to act during these times.

Here are three lessons I’ve learned to help you choose to think and act courageously:

#1 – Lean into Fear

The main difference between those who courageously act and those who stay stuck amounts to how we view fear. Courage is not the absence of fear. Courage is being afraid and working through the discomfort. Courage means you allow challenge and adversity to be a catalyst to help you grow strong enough to face whatever life throws at you.

#2 – Courage is Unique to Each of Us

Courage is highly individual to each person. So is suffering. Don’t compare your pain and fear to the experiences of others. What is scary to one person may be exhilarating to the next. We see things differently, and we experience different types of courage. Neither is better or worse than any other. I know people who are fearless when it comes to travel or sports, but they refuse to fall in love because they may get hurt. There is no one-size-fits-all when it comes to courage.

#3 – There are Many Different Ways to Practice Courage

To care for a disabled family member requires you to be courageous to face an unending series of daily challenges. To be a successful business owner you must be bold and have courage to take calculated risks. To be a loving friend, parent or spouse you must be courageous to forgive.

So as you go through your day, think about the following:

  • What types of courage come easily for you?
  • Which ones are more difficult?
  • What blocks you from behaving courageously in the circumstances you face?



  1. Anne, I read your recent publication and I want to tell you how sorry I am for the trials you are facing. I met you several years ago at a conference you spoke at. I was walking from the parking lot of the campus and you greeted me very warmly and walked with me to the auditorium. You have been such an inspiration. I encourage you to continue sharing so that we may carry your burdens and needs in prayer. I have added you to my prayer list for total healing and restoration. Again, I am so sorry for what you are going through. Take care of your sweet self.


  2. I was at one of your conferences and I admired your positive attitude. I thought how wonderful it must be to be so encouraging to others. Your life has no many difficulties but I am glad you are still positive. My prayers are with you and your family.

  3. Love reading your articles. Sorry for what you are experiencing medically. My brother-in-law is going through something very similar. Started with the lump behind the ear, had an 8 hr surgery, and will start 72 rounds of radiation in addition to chemo soon. My prayers are with you!

    • Thanks for your note, Jody. I’m sorry to hear about your brother-in-law. My prayers are with you guys. Tell him to enjoy any food he wants now because he will temporarily lose taste buds with radiation. Lots and lots of pizza and ice cream 😉 There has to be a silver lining!

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