We procrastinate because our desire to delay things overcomes our desire to act on them. We focus on short-term gratification over long-term gain. When we’re tired, hungry or stressed, this desire to delay can become even more powerful.
Rumination is just one of our brain’s many protection mechanisms. Your brain thinks that if it ruminates, it is doing something productive. You just have to give it something else to do instead.
Languishing is not stress, worry, anxiety, or depression — but it also isn’t happiness or joy. It is not going through a crisis or feeling incredibly distressed, but it is not feeling satisfied with our achievements or having mental well-being either, either.
Instead of sitting in the uncomfortable moment, you do everything you can to take it away. You pull out your phone, turn on the TV, grab an alcoholic beverage from the fridge, do some online shopping… you look for anything you can grasp to ease the discomfort.
A people pleaser is someone who sacrifices their own needs, desires, and beliefs in order to meet the wishes, requests, or perceived expectations of those around them.